So I (58F) …married a great man (M50) who has 2 kids (15,16) who live 4 hours away with their mom. They visit as often as everyone’s schedule allows (at least a weekend a month) and we all participate in daily group chats. A few months ago 16 came out as bi. No big deal, we just want our kids to be happy and embrace who they are. Last week their mom shared with me 15(f) wants to go by a male name. Tried to help her understand being sensitive and accepting now will save years of therapy for 15, but she is unwilling to accept this and is hoping “it’s just a phase”. Here’s where I TIFU: In an attempt to bring us closer I “came out” to the girls that I am a witch. Literally only a handful of people know this about me. 15 and 16 were talking about tarot cards and were shocked when I told them I had some. I took them upstairs and showed them my alter, and we looked at a couple of my decks and had a general discussion on manifesting. I let them pick a few intention cards to take with them (they both struggle with depression and anxiety). Nothing else was said about any of the the rest of their visit.
So yesterday I get a PM 15 wants to be a witch. Her mom is going to flip out. 15 shaved her head 2 days ago and mom hasn’t recovered from that. It does sound like 15 is struggling to find her identity, and her dad and I just want to be supportive. 15’s mom and I get along great, she sometimes even stays with us during visits because of the long drive. I TIFU our co-parenting relationship by potentially influencing her child in something that mom likely doesnt understand or accept.

TL:DR TIFU by coming out as a witch to my impressionable teenage stepdaughter, and now she wants to be a witch. Her mom will not be happy.